| Question : every small thing makes my husband angry. he told me several times that he is much calmer than before since he got married with me,becouse I always try to make him calm.besides he has ADD as well.I think although I love him but I can't tolerate his behavior any more since my life's getting stressfull because of that.whenever he gets angry,it seems his mind doesn't work any more ,he starts doing stupid things.I'm an immigrant in the US ,and far away from my parents.I feel I'm very alone.I don't know what to do.please help me to find a solution. |
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I guess this is the result of unfilled expectations. Many times it happens in married life that either of the person gets angry on very small things and major reason behind these would be possessive nature and unfilled expectations.
Breaking out is not a solution and not going to make happy either of you. Try to discuss with your husband. Spare some time together everyday to talk on different topics. But Yes not about your problems. Discuss about good things, like how you enjoyed honeymoon or discuss about your future planning, your new house which you will buy after 5 years or perhaps about your child. This will create a positive energy between you two. And it solves many of the problems. Normally what happens that two partners start thinking each other in one particular mindset. Say possessive, angry, dumb, or slut. So first try to build some positive energy between you. And also try thinking about good things happening between you two and not bad things.
May be this will take time, but at least you stay calm during this and handle the situation. Time being with love and discussion you definitely will be able to sort this out and will start living a dream life.
Happy life :) |
| Question : Me and my boyfriend has been dating on and off for three years, the first year was amazing and since then we are struggling to get along with each other, its like we don't see eye to eye anymore... i love his with everything i exist of, i am going through some tough things and my sex drive is non existent and that creates tension, i'm sure the cause of that is that i suffer from depression. we try and talk about it, but that always leads to a fight.... |
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Good to know about your determination of not willing to leave your boyfriend. But you need to be sure that he also wishes same. Do you think he also want to live for life with you? First of all get this confirmed. If he is not willing to do that, you can’t hold him against his willingness.
If you both have same love and intensity with each other, your problem is not a problem. You just need to get relaxed. Don’t try to get any issue resolved and there will not be more issues. If you are meeting everyday, take a break. leave apart for 2 or 7 days and you both will feel need of each other.
As far as your sex life is concerned its very normal to have up and down in that. Try to get rid of your depression. Here are some simple ways.
1) Getup early in the morning and breath in fresh air, go to bed early at night. a 10 to 5:30 sleep should be perfect.
2) Eat fresh fruits and vegetables more
3) Read good books (not novels or stories but "healthy, funny, motivational books") at least 10 minutes every day.
4) Practice Yog and Meditation every day. At least for 30 minutes.
5) If you can’t practice meditation at least sit idle, in a calm space, alone, for 15 minutes. don’t think for anything, don’t talk with anyone, no disturbance. Just sit and relax.
Think of happy days. :)
Practice this for few days and I am sure you will start re-enjoying your life and relationship with your boyfriend again.
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